>>55991
i'm sorry if that came off as prescriptionist, i have actually been identifying it in my own behaviors recently so it's been on my mind, i think that having a curious interest in others as people without intentionally trying to help them allows the princess heart to heal the world without the princess brain getting in the way
detachment is the only way to avoid getting hurt but much of the fun in this world is in experiencing the highs and lows so it's not that you need to get rid of it altogether but you just have to be conscious that everything you choose to let yourself care about and be "real" to you can put its shallowness on full display at any moment and fall along with all the things you've built around it like a house of cards (do you like overused idioms more than aphorisms?) as well as introducing free will safety checks that have to be processed which separate you just enough from the present moment to lose the magic of things going in and out naturally, every time i abandon the character i am playing i am choosing to blindly assume the role of someone i don't know and have never seen before and when i focus my curiousness on this person incredible things unfold into something that looks like a house of cards, perhaps even more shallow than before, but understanding this allows me to lounge on the sofa while i bathe in the starlight shining through in the window of the jacks eye and saturate the depths of every moment into a real home
to integrate this into your life while continuing to be "real" the skill is in being able to carefully set things down the way you want to and i have found a table works well