A lot of the anti-trans stuff really is accurate and not without reason, and some of the more extreme stuff is really just the pendulum swinging back, after some pretty eggregious stuff being tolerated and not spoken against by the ones who are "pro-trans".
The dissemination of attitudes about groups is distinct from the arguments themselves, it's really just the social expression of those ideas, and I think that's a reality you just have to deal with in a society.
One also has to make a distinction between the trans stuff as a cultural phenomenon and just being something individuals do with their lives. I don't really know how to feel about it personally, but I know that there are certain things that are adaptive and cohesive and work in society, and I think there can come a point where the broader societal forces like government and social hegemony start to take a certain shape, out of necessity, to real it all back it, like a "playtimes over" thing. I think a good example of this is Kier Starmer's sudden switch on the immigration stuff, which is literally just not being full blown insane and evil, but a number of shitlibs still clinging to their dying hegemony want to literally call him a fascist over it (lol).
I would really just suggest to anyone that considers themselves trans, just to be honest with themselves and try to be good people. Don't be a bad example, and be open to changing if really it is good to.