i believe society is in such a state, that shame driven behaviour causes a hecklot of harm, maybe mostly harm but who knows and also maybe depends on what you count. i do want to distinguish between the *emotion* shame and just any regard for what people think about you. for example a russian spy may not want to be found out, but thats not really shame
from the individuals perspective, its yet a different question. but basically i think, people need to take a chill pill
there is so much fake behavior, people fake it untill they dont even know theyre faking it. its kind of psychotic actually