i think you are your own person, you are not responsible for fixing others' problems. you can only really work on yourself and hope people see the good in you, the same way you see the good in them. maybe the person who wants to be with you has an image in their mind of who you are, and does not see you for the imperfectly perfect human being you are. i think that you must express yourself authentically to him, and if he accepts that, he is for you, but i don't really know anything, i'm a work in progress myself. we all are. maybe you can figure out your own way, and if anything, mistakes are to be made to learned from. it's a very difficult thing, emotional temperaments can sometimes be very fickle things, so take dear and loving care with them when you are trusted with them, anon.